now when i go to put her down in her crib or in my bed, she fusses and screams until i pick her up. i have to wait until she is COMPLETELY knocked out (lol) to get her to stay asleep. its frustrating because i know im handicapping her. any suggestions on how to get her to soothe herself to sleep?|||handicapping? come on thats silly. at a certain point babies are able to manipulate to get what they want, they can cry because they know you will pick them up. so leave her in her crib, not for too long, but im sure shell get tired after awhile, you have to reverse what youve taught her already. i wouldnt let her scream for hours, but make it a point to hold her for a few minutes then put her down, dwindle it down every few days(or weeks! depends on your kids determination i guess) until you dont hold her to get her to go to sleep. they really have to learn how to entertain and comfort and put themselves to sleep, you arent doing any harm by letting your baby cry for a little while.|||Your probably going to have to let her cry, even though it is hard for you as a mother, she is going to have to realize that mommy is not going to rock her every night. Eventually she will realize this and stop crying.|||how are you handicapping her?
I did that with my son for the first 3 years! And he is just fine.|||Apparently I'm making the same "mistake" with my ten month old. He seems pretty healthy and happy, though.|||get a copy of "sleeping through the night" by Jodi Mindell
http://www.amazon.com/Sleeping-Through-N鈥?/a>
this book as a life saver for me. I'd tell you what the book might say but I loaned my copy to a friend. I can tell you that you are going to have to wean your daughter nad train her to fall alseep on her own. You'll have to let her cry and protest. it won't easy but you'll get through it. Shes just becomed conditioned but you can retrain her sleep habit.
Start up a new routine and practice at nap time if you need. try massaging her back with the lavender lotion stuff or reading a story. softly speak to her "you will be going to sleep by yourself tonight" and try putting on some soft music as another way to help sooth her.|||I would also like to know how you are handicapping her? I rock my little boy to sleep every night and enjoy our special time together. He will be two next month. They are only this small for a breath of their life. Enjoy every single minute of it.|||I would let her cry it out just start letting her cry like 7 minutes for a few days and then bump it up by a few minutes the next time.
I would think thats got to be hard on your back or neck.
I'm having issue with my baby and she is only 6 months and pretty tiny at that|||I don't feel this is a handicap at all! Buy rocking your baby to sleep, you are doing one of the most fundamental actions required in bonding with your child! Eventually, your baby will not require this and you will miss those days! Try singing to your child too while you rock. Your voice is soothing to your baby, and it's therapy for YOU too! You will miss these days, don't think of them as something negative. It's common that babys awaken from time to time, even when it seems they are in a deep sleep.|||This is a personal preference thing. It is perfectly fine to parent your child to sleep, but if it is not something you what to do then you can gently (though crying will be involved) help her learn to fall asleep. I recommend the No-Cry sleep solution first for gentling her down, and Dr. Sears info for parenting her to sleep (holding her). You can also look at Dr. Ferber for a quicker (and more crying) way for her to go to sleep on her own.
You are doing a great job and you are doing nothing wrong. It is your own comfort level, does it bother you to rock her to sleep?|||at 12 weeks old i stopped nursing my children to sleep.it took about 3 nights of crying etc but they have always sleep the whole night through 7am-7pm.
If you are willing to do it,then you have to deal with it.
I personally didn't want to keep nursing them asleep.
I don't think you are handicapping her but rather yourself of a peaceful night.|||I totally understand where you're coming from.Ever since my son was born whenever he'd wake up through the night I'd lay him in bed with me and just let him sleep right there with me and he'd sleep content right thru the night (i know it's not advised to put infants in bed with you because of SIDS) anyways,as time went on and he got older he learned that if he woke up crying he would get put in bed with mommy so he would wake himself up purposely just about every night just so I would put him in my bed.Basically he's spoiled lol. Now he's 9months old and I'm working on breaking him of the habit because he's to the point where he learned how to get into everything and off of the bed and what not.Sorry to say the only way to break the habit is to just teach your daughter that the rocking isn't going to happen which means there will probably be alot of crying.The rocking is basically a security item for her,and she has associated it with bedtime so my advice would be to slowly try to wean her off of the rocking little by little.Good Luck!|||Well, you can look at it 2 ways. One, that she won't want to be rocked forever and if you both enjoy it, then keep doing it. Or, if you're worried about it, you can start working toward stopping this habit. Try rocking her until her eyes close and then lay her down gently. Stay in the room so she knows you're not running away. Then start putting her in the crib a little earlier (right before her eyes clothes, after only a couple of minutes of rockiing, and then not at all. Offer lots of cuddling at other times so she doesn't miss the contact. Perhaps rubbing her back when she's laying in bed might help her learn.
She's still young - don't worry too much about it though. Take is slowly and be loving and nurturing to her like you have been!|||You're not handicapping her! Your'e doing a great thing for her! She'll only be a baby once, and babies are meant to be . . . babied.
Read The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. Keep up the good work, and don't let anyone tell you to ignore your instincts!|||if its only your baby that you are worried about, i wouldn't worry. she's not going to mind being "handicapped" in this way. lol.
it seems like it would be a special time that she would enjoy.
if you are the one you're worried about maybe you can transistion to a soothing activity that is less tireing to you physically. a bedtime ritual thats not as physical like lullaby singing or something.
shes at an age where its harder for her to sleep too. separation anxiety often kicks in around this age, plus she is reaching a stage where she can do so much more, she may keep herself up because she doesn't want to miss out on any time that she could use "practicing".
i definately recomend the sears book that other have mentioned as well as nighttime parenting also by dr. sears|||She is old enough to cry it out. I had the same problem, I had to let mine cry it out until she finally wore herself out and fell asleep. It sucks so bad, and you feel horrible, but do it for a couple of days, and she will get better and better. good luck.|||Yes, quit while you still can. Just shut the door and walk out. After a couple weeks, she should get use to falling asleep alone. good luck.
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